One of the hardest things to do in life is make a decision. As a Libra, I sometimes joke that being indecisive is part of my nature. 😂 I can make a choice today and then wonder if I made the right one tomorrow.
When I do make a wrong decision, I usually have two choices: look for the bright side and learn from it, or simply live with it and complain about it. LOL.
Our lesson one evening was about morality and values, and it made me think about some of the difficult choices I've had to make in my own life.
Our teacher gave us an interesting situation. Imagine that on the same evening, you have an important commitment at church, but there is also a championship battle of the bands. You happen to be the most important member of your band—the vocalist—and without you, the band can't compete.
So, where would you go?
Church or the championship?
There isn't necessarily one correct answer. It depends on what you value, what you believe, and what responsibilities you feel you need to prioritize.
That question reminded me of several situations in my own life when I had to make difficult choices.
Choosing Between Church and a Christening
One Sunday, I was already inside the church when someone called me outside and told me that there was going to be a Christening that day at another church. I was one of the child's godparents, so naturally, I was expected to be there.
The problem was that I was already attending my regular church service.
I had actually seen the child's mother the day before, but she hadn't mentioned anything about the Christening. So I was caught completely off guard.
After thinking about it, I decided to go back inside the church and finish the service.
Perhaps some people would have made a different decision, but at that moment, I felt that I had already made a commitment. I was already there, and nobody had told me beforehand about the other event.
It wasn't an easy decision, but I was comfortable with the choice I made.
When My Values Didn't Agree With Everyone Else
Another difficult decision happened during our church's Thanksgiving Sunday.
Instead of having the usual Sunday service inside the church, the congregation voted to hold the service at a resort hall and celebrate there afterward.
Many people were happy with the idea.
I wasn't.
I felt uncomfortable with the decision, and it didn't sit well with my personal values. I knew that I could simply go along with everyone else, but I also knew I wouldn't feel comfortable doing so.
So I made a rather unusual choice.
I went to the church by myself.
While everyone else was at the resort celebrating Thanksgiving Sunday, I stayed in the church and prayed.
It might have looked strange to other people, but sometimes you have to make a decision based on what you believe is right for yourself, even when your choice is different from everyone else's.
Church or Mountain Climbing?
Then there was another situation that was a little different.
I was part of a mountaineering group, and they often scheduled their climbs on Sundays. That was understandable because the group's founder attended church on Sabbath, so Sunday was the most convenient day for everyone to go hiking.
At that time, Pastor E wasn't around one Sunday, and the church service was being handled by the younger members. They weren't really accustomed to preparing sermons, although they were more involved in singing and interpretative dancing.
So on some Sundays, I chose to go hiking with my mountaineering friends instead.
I remember going with them on two Sundays.
But when another Sunday climb was scheduled later on, I made a different decision.
I chose church.
Sometimes Our Priorities Change
Looking back, I realized that making decisions isn't always about choosing between something good and something bad.
Sometimes, we're choosing between two things that are both important to us.
Church, friendships, commitments, family, hobbies, work—we all have different things competing for our time and attention.
What matters is understanding why we're making a particular choice.
I don't always know if my decisions are the right ones. Sometimes I make mistakes. Sometimes I regret my choices. And sometimes, I simply have to live with the consequences.
But I have learned that it's impossible to make everyone happy all the time.
There will always be someone who disagrees with our decisions.
And that's okay.
At the end of the day, we have to live with our own choices.
Maybe being indecisive isn't always such a bad thing after all. Sometimes taking time to think, question ourselves, and consider what truly matters can help us understand our values, priorities, and the kind of person we want to be.
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